Being unbothered is one of the most humbling practices one can entertain. Being able to hear about things or aspects of your social circle that used to bother you or upset you that no longer do is a strong feeling. This is so much easier said than done like most things. I am the type of person with the worst FOMO and just want to be aware of those around me. However, over time when I let a lot of the relationships in my life die off due to negativity, I saw this fixing itself. I am only worried about things that affect me personally. You may call this selfish but it is just being at peace. This is not to say I only care about myself in a way where I'm blind to international issues or those who are less fortunate. This is to say I am not worried about drama in small lives.
I have been strictly believing that what comes in your life is all from energy. Everything that grows or stays in your life is due to the energy you put towards it. Therefore, you have to be very strict and articulate with what you choose to entertain in your life. If there is something you don’t want to tolerate, don't. Do not have a fear of being perceived as rude because that is not worth risking your peace with yourself or your life. Do not entertain old habits or your past. You cannot see your past, you learn from it, but you can’t see it. You can’t see yesterday or 3 years ago. You need to learn from what happened and move forwards. If you continue to dwell on the past you're just going to be looking back on all the years and time you spent putting energy towards something you cannot change because it already happened. And most of the time this is putting energy towards something you cannot control. As humans, we tend to get worked up about things that we cannot control which is another habit we need to practice on breaking.
Being able to stay in on a Friday or a Saturday night alone working on yourself and taking care of yourself without getting anxious about what everybody else is doing will do wonders for you.
You almost have to train yourself to not care about things. The best way to do this is to act as if you already don't care. If something is bothering you that has no significance to your future happiness, ignore it if someone makes you upset or makes you feel bad about yourself questioning your worth, don't care. These people most of the time don't like themselves, it doesn’t matter if they don't like you. That is their business. These negative people and energy are not paying your bills, helping you, or inspiring you to become the higher version of yourself. Being unbothered by the small things in life that feel huge at a young age will put you ahead in the future.
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